Words are very powerful, not just what we say, but what others say to us, and what we allow to be internalized.
Why? Because words are a by product of our thoughts, ideas, value systems and what we believe to be true. The bible is filled with examples of how powerful our words are, in the beginning we are told that God created the heavens and the earth with his words. The bible warns us to be constantly cautious about what we say, we are told to exercise temperance in speech when we are angry, we are not to speak carelessly, refraining from idle gossip, it constantly implores us to speak good and kind words to lift each other up with our words, perhaps the most noted verse about words is found in Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits’’.
To me this means you tend to believe what you say about yourself and what others say about you, so you get to decide, do you keep saying and listening to things that poison you and crush your spirit or do you say things and absorb things that improve you.
Case in point, I was at the gym last week, and I was on the elliptical, I was reflecting on a YouTube video by a wonderful lady called beautiful brown baby doll, she had lost about a 100 pounds in 8 to 10 months, I was saying to myself, Ndidi, can you ever lose that much weight and actually be a skinny girl (not that I intend to, but hey you never know lol), I stopped myself and I was like why not?.
What is making me say to myself that it is impossible, and that I can’t achieve it if I desired it?.
I feel like most of us can be really self-deprecating, I have been doing some reflecting and I am beginning to realize just how much I internalize so much negative nonsense , I have ever heard spoken about myself idly or otherwise.
I’m still learning how to sift through everything that is said and has been said, and weigh it against what I know to be the reality. Spending time with Christ has helped me a lot, every day for 30 minutes, before I talk to anyone, I turn off all my notifications (that helps a lot ), I try to sit with God, I spend time meditating on his thoughts about me, what he speaks over my life and my situation, I put on some worship music which lifts my spirit and puts me in a good mood, and this somehow makes it easier for me to speak positively about my life.
It is helping me to put more thought into what I say, I have become more reserved in my speech, because I realize how words shaped my attitudes and actions over the years, I want to be more careful, I want my words to edify, I want them to sound more thoughtful, I want them to be honest without being hurtful.
They say sticks and stones can break your bones, but words can never hurt you, unless you believe them, then they can destroy you. So you see, my mind is ultimately the battleground. The bible says we should not be conformed to the world but be transformed by the renewing of our minds (Romans 12:1-2).
We need the power of the Holy Spirit to transform us, I believe that in my natural state, my reasoning is flawed, no amount of education, knowledge and positive thinking, can change the fallen nature of the state of my thoughts, I can speak good and affirming things over my life each morning in the mirror but if my mind isn’t right then my actions will never be aligned to bring those thoughts and words into reality.
I can watch weight loss videos all I want on YouTube, meal prep properly, renew my gym membership but if I have not made up my mind to get healthy nothing is going to change. I can go to church every Sunday listen to inspirational faith based messages, but still deal with a myriad of personal issues if I don’t get my mind right.
So getting my mind right is the first step in the right direction, that means spending time in prayer asking for the years of internalized negative and incorrect thinking about myself, about what I can and can’t do to be completely uprooted, even the ones that seem right and reasonable, this is should be a constant prayer point, remember always that the human mind is always in enmity with God, meaning it is not in my nature and (yours) to naturally to think about ourselves the way God thinks about us.
Read, read and read some more good news, the gospel is really great news, whenever I am struggling with my issues I go to the word of God and meditate on what God says, this helps to give me faith that I will overcome because I believe so much in the power of God’s word. Also I find that listening regularly to people who have a positive and practical outlook on life really helps. Renewing my mind is really a lifelong process for me some weeks I’m super diligent and some weeks I slack, I pray for consistency and grace, but more importantly, but I feel like everyone has a purpose, and in order for me to get to that place where God has destined for me to reach, I need to remove a lot of mental roadblocks I have placed on myself based on years of internalizing a lot of wrong things I heard about myself, God continues to teach me and I hope that I am humble enough to listen and take the necessary steps to be a kick ass babe and I hope you do too.