Adulting is hard, let no one lie to you or fool you, there are times when all I want to do is lay in bed and eat ice cream, but I cannot. I mean even I tried to be a bum I need to pay my bills. Perhaps through no fault of our own, a lot of us millennials seem to exist in a state of perpetual adolescence, we are leaving the nest and getting married later in life compared to our baby boomer parents; we are a duty averse generation; we dislike long-term commitments and we crave flexibility in all forms.
The fact is responsibility gives meaning to adult life; it is unavoidable. Depending on how you look at it, it can denote stoicism in the face of unhappiness or it can be the pathway to ownership and complete autonomy over your life. It can get you things like a fulfilling career, a successful relationship or even help you find your purpose. The problem is, these days, we have given the word responsibility a bad rep, and we avoid it like the plague, because it also comes at a cost. It forces you to grow up, losing freedom, innocence and unbridled hedonism. It makes us conscious; we realize that there are consequences of inaction, we can no longer bury our head in the sand, and we get to stare reality in the face, no matter how uncomfortable it may be.
But even if we had the chance, to spend some time in an alternate universe with no responsibilities would that make us happy?.
Would we become bored, nihilistic perhaps, you know how it is when you go on vacation for over 5 days and you have just about had enough sightseeing and margaritas you can handle.
Humans need obligations and duties, we are beasts of burden, as much as we complain, we enjoy the grind; we relish the hustle, as the saying goes no food for a lazy man, the cost of achieving anything, is doing what we realize we ought to do, every time.
But being responsible just for the sake of material success is rather simplistic and will not be enough motivation for everyone.
Truth is, doing the right thing, may not make you Oprah Winfrey, it is not a one-way ticket to prosperity or fame. But, I am yet to meet someone who shoulders the weight of their being with enthusiasm and resoluteness that isn’t thriving and leading a fulfilled life. Life is about showing up every day, determined to make the most of it, even when you don’t feel like it, because what is on the other side of the coin is unpleasant.
So as I sit here writing about adulthood and responsibility, I have a laundry lists of tasks to do that I keep procrastinating. Single, married or divorced with children, life can be a challenge and it’s easy to get overwhelmed. We are limited by 24 hours and even if we had more hours who is to say that we would use them all efficiently? We cannot worry about tomorrow, without fulfilling our responsibilities for today, because if we take care of what we have to today, then tomorrow becomes a little easier and then the next day.